There was a moment in my life when I told a friend that I was afraid that others would get better than me, and I’ll never forget what she said in return. She said, “So what? How will that stop you from getting better?” She’s right. No matter what happens in other people’s journeys, it will not hinder my growth. In fact, their lives have no relevance or effect on mine. All I have to do is to focus on my journey.
Life is not a zero-sum game. Sometimes even, a connection between people happens when people win together. I remember a quote from The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, where the author quotes her sister. The sister said, “People succeed in groups.” Companies, organizations, movements–those are not created by one genius but by individuals who are working together. Or job opportunities are passed on from friend to friend, so if you have a successful friend, you also have access to your friend’s privileged network.
These things make sense, but sometimes emotions get in the way, so I hope to always remember these things.
- Counterintuitive Advice: Lower Your Standards
- It’s Not Genius, It’s Cumulative Advantage
- Mid-Year Report: Spend More Time With People
- The Freedom of Not Trying to Prove Yourself
- Three Things That Make Me Feel Accomplished
- To Shift or Not to Shift
- Click here for more Happiness and Inspiration
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