I am glad to announce that I have successfully completed a one-week Facebook and YouTube detox. From Nov. 20, 2017 to Nov. 26, 2017, I wasn’t allowed to check my Facebook and watch YouTube videos. Recently, I noticed that I’ve been overly checking Facebook and watching too many YouTube videos especially of the show Friends. In this post, I will tell you how I came up with this idea, the rules of the detox week, my progress, and my realizations.
As I said in this post, one of my fantasies is to do whatever the fuck I want for an entire year. So, the plan is to work for five years then fuck off for one year, then work for five years again, then fuck off for another year. Tim Ferris, in his book 4-Hour Work Week, calls this creating mini-retirements, where you space out your retirement period all throughout your life instead of having a giant one at the end. When I read that, I got attracted to it, but I never had the courage to actually do it.
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The cyclical misery is that experience where you go into a slump every now and then. It’s mysterious because it’s triggered by nothing, and it’s frustrating when you’re trying hard to make it stop. Now I realize that the best way to deal with it is to let it take its course and trust that it too shall pass.
I love books, but I think I buy too many. Right now I have 52 unread books on my bookshelf. I actually have more than that, but the ones that have been unread for a year or more, I’ve already placed in my pile of books to sell. I did this because Marie Kondo’s The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up said: if you haven’t read that book in a year, you never will. When I read that, I was shocked, but at the same time, I realized, she was right. So I cleaned out my books.
Though I am pleased with my progress, I want to hit a better target. Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project said that she aims for five unread books at a time. Five? That sounds impossible! I’m trying though. I already banned myself from entering bookstores, but sometimes I just can’t resist. Sometimes I also worry that what if I can’t find a copy of that book anymore, so I have to buy it now, now, now! Ok, this is unhealthy.
How can we have the courage to do the right thing? Sometimes it’s not as easy as it seems. Sometimes doing the right thing can affect us negatively. Activists who speak up for just causes but end up being jailed by oppressive regimes would know this to be true. We really don’t know what will happen though until we make that decision. Maybe the activists won’t get jailed and instead triggers a revolution and is deemed a hero.
However, the threat of negative consequences, no matter how unsure they are, is enough to make us cower and decide to do the wrong thing. There is an advice though that can help us during these trying times, and that is: “Don’t be married to a certain outcome.” I read this in the book, Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward by Henry Cloud.
I recently reread the book Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg Mckeown. It talks about eliminating everything that isn’t important for you. That doesn’t just mean saying no to bad offers but also saying no to good opportunities so that you can focus on a few things that really matter. One great advice from the book is be slow to say yes but be quick to say no. Sadly, I’m still not good at saying no, so I’m currently following the second part of that advice: uncommit.