Henry Cloud: Don’t be attached to a certain outcome

How can we have the courage to do the right thing? Sometimes it’s not as easy as it seems. Sometimes doing the right thing can affect us negatively. Activists who speak up for just causes but end up being jailed by oppressive regimes would know this to be true. We really don’t know what will happen though until we make that decision. Maybe the activists won’t get jailed and instead triggers a revolution and is deemed a hero.

However, the threat of negative consequences, no matter how unsure they are, is enough to make us cower and decide to do the wrong thing. There is an advice though that can help us during these trying times, and that is: “Don’t be married to a certain outcome.” I read this in the book, Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward by Henry Cloud.

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Learning to uncommit

I recently reread the book Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg Mckeown. It talks about eliminating everything that isn’t important for you. That doesn’t just mean saying no to bad offers but also saying no to good opportunities so that you can focus on a few things that really matter. One great advice from the book is be slow to say yes but be quick to say no. Sadly, I’m still not good at saying no, so I’m currently following the second part of that advice: uncommit.

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I’m Going to Practice Management Concepts on Myself

I’ve always loved reading self-help books. Recently, there are more and more self-help books in the management section so now I’m reading management books. This is super weird, because if you’ve read To Shift or Not to Shift, you’d know that I took a management course in college, hated it, and then shifted out. I guess I just didn’t get the information related to management that was interesting to me. Anyway, so here I am so pumped up with these management books, but then I have no leadership position. Then I realized something, I can use these concepts to manage myself and my life.

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Be impressed by your efforts not just successes

A few years ago, a guy told me he visited my blog and he said, “Wow, ang dami mong blog posts.” I was shocked that he found that impressive. I never even considered that the quantity of my blog posts was in itself an accomplishment. I realized that I should also appreciate my efforts not just my successes. I have written this much and that in itself is worth something.

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Life coaching + travel getaway

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If you’re an achievement junkie like me, and you also happen to be right smack into your quarter-life crisis, then you’ll understand why I got interested in life coaching. With life coaching, learning who you are and what you should do in life can be guided by a professional. There are several life coaching packages out there in Manila, but none that I’ve heard of that combined it with a travel getaway. That is, not until Kairos.

I got lucky because my cousin, who works at Convergent Consulting, the company behind Kairos, helped me get invited to this relaxing weekend. Convergent Consulting has been in operation for 14 years, and they provide training programs for teams and leaders of top corporations in the country. To celebrate the beginning of their 15th year, they launched Kairos, which is their first attempt to combine travel and life coaching, which they offered for private individuals instead of their usual clientele of companies.

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Trying to Kick two Bad Habits

I have two bad habits, and they’re kind of really bad. One is whenever I am riding a jeep/bus/fx that’s being driven by a reckless driver, I don’t go down. The second is when I get excess change, I don’t give it back. Whatt??!! Sorry. Ok let me talk about these two bad habits, and what I am doing to change.

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Counterintuitive Advice: Don’t Manage Your Time

As you can see, I’m super into reading stuff about time-management. But when I read the article The 1 time management trick that actually works by Geoffrey James of Inc.com, I realized that there’s another way to look at the situation, and that is to not manage my time. What? Ok let me quote Mr. James so that you can understand his point.

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