I am glad to announce that I have successfully completed a one-week Facebook and YouTube detox. From Nov. 20, 2017 to Nov. 26, 2017, I wasn’t allowed to check my Facebook and watch YouTube videos. Recently, I noticed that I’ve been overly checking Facebook and watching too many YouTube videos especially of the show Friends. In this post, I will tell you how I came up with this idea, the rules of the detox week, my progress, and my realizations.
As I said in this post, one of my fantasies is to do whatever the fuck I want for an entire year. So, the plan is to work for five years then fuck off for one year, then work for five years again, then fuck off for another year. Tim Ferris, in his book 4-Hour Work Week, calls this creating mini-retirements, where you space out your retirement period all throughout your life instead of having a giant one at the end. When I read that, I got attracted to it, but I never had the courage to actually do it.
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The cyclical misery is that experience where you go into a slump every now and then. It’s mysterious because it’s triggered by nothing, and it’s frustrating when you’re trying hard to make it stop. Now I realize that the best way to deal with it is to let it take its course and trust that it too shall pass.
I love watching Project Runway (see Georgina Chapman Talks about Creative Breakdowns, 5 Self-Help Lessons I Learned from Reality TV) not just for the awesome clothes but also for the lessons about human behavior and human relationships. Recently, I caught up with season 14, and at first I thought the life lesson was along the lines of hell is other people, but then I realized something a little more inspirational. People who hate you will hate you, and people who like you will like you. That’s inspirational? Let me explain.
*Note: This came from a writing exercise from What Color is Your Parachute? by Richard Nelson Bolles. The instruction was to write about what kind of job you’d want if you could have any job in the world. Instead of one job, I thought of several. I realized that this was very much like my Life Plans series (My Life Plans As of Right Now (2012), Life Plans Progress Report (2014), My Life Plans as of Right Now (2015 version), My Life Plans as of Right Now (2016), Rereading My Diary For Year End Insights (2016)), but maybe it’s a little more ambitious, hence the title*
If I could have any job in the world, I would want to have a regular improv acting job. My group and I perform weekly at a small cafe with a friendly crowd. Each member is paid a fixed talent fee by the restaurant, given a percentage of the ticket sales, and are fed for free. We also go abroad to perform in international festivals and other venues. All expenses are paid (food, transportation, accommodations) , we are given pocket money, and are paid for our performance. During the trip abroad, there is at least one free day for us to shop and our hosts also gladly tour us around the sights in their city.
I began taking improv acting classes around January 2017. It started on a whim or more like a whimper. I was feeling sad and lost because I didn’t know what I was going to do with my life. Perfect timing for a Facebook ad offering improv classes by Third World Improv (a school by the improv group SPIT). Before seeing that ad, I actually took an improv class that SPIT did for the media, back when they weren’t offering classes yet. They were just doing that to promote their shows, and I was one of the lucky lifestyle reporters who got to experience it. I remember enjoying it, and wishing I could take more. I was crestfallen when they said they weren’t offering any. Years passed, and I forgot all about them, but when I saw that Facebook ad, it all came rushing back. I thought, maybe I’ll be less miserable if I took improv.
Looking back, I don’t know why that was enough for me to get from my savings and pay for those classes. Now it’s June 2017, and I’ve had four shows and took two levels of classes. The response towards me has been surprisingly positive. Yet, I’m like, what am I doing? Why am I acting? Am I an actress???? What the fuck? This wasn’t part of the plan.