I don’t really know how the conversation evolved into us giggling while chanting “V for vagina!” but that’s how the conversation went. As far as I can remember, I was in a table with people who were attending the birthday party of a friend. Some of them were my close friends ever since grade school or high school while some were people I just met that day. For some sort of reason, the group clicked, and then things got hilariously weird.
I am about to finish reading The Virgin Way by Richard Branson. Mr. Branson describes himself as a serial entrepreneur. As the founder of Virgin Group, he has produced an astounding 400 companies that deal with travel, financial services, transport, healthcare, lifestyle, and more.
So how did he become this renaissance man? In the book, Mr. Branson said that one of the things that contributed to his success was listening. He said that he always brings around a notebook where he writes down the interesting things people say and the important things he has to remember. This has served him well on many occasions. The notebooks are a source of knowledge, and, one time, his notebooks even helped him refute another businessman by saying something like Well, that wasn’t what we talked about two weeks ago. I know this because it’s in my notebook.
Mr. Branson also said that it’s important to listen to everyone, not just people in power. His employees give him great insights on how to improve their business as the employees are exposed to the daily challenges that he might not be aware of. Listening to employees is also a way to boost their morale because people feel honored that someone from management cares enough to listen to what they have to say.
For the past few days I’ve been trying to listen, and I discovered how challenging it was. I’ve been so busy trying to speak up and express myself, and though these things are good, I have to also try to listen. I want to learn how to pay attention to other people. I want to learn how to truly understand them, how to truly hear what they are saying. Through this, I feel like I will transform my life. I will be able to expand my worldview, I’ll gain more knowledge, and I’ll also be able to respond and communicate in a more effective way.
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If you’ve read Using Index Cards to Figure Out My Dreams, you’ll know that I tried using index cards for my note taking fever. I have a wide range of interests, so I thought that index cards that I can shuffle and rearrange would be better than cramming my notebooks with a jumble of different interests. However, that experiment made me realize that the notebook way was better.
If you’ve read To Shift or Not to Shift, you’ll know that I’m an advocate of dumping things that don’t make you happy. Even if you’re not sure of the next step, you should still drop that thing that makes you miserable. Taking risks is hard, but I realized that it was easier to make those scary choices back when I was absolutely miserable. As you grow older though, life becomes more complex, and things become less clearer.
When I shared Screw Finding Your Passion by Mark Manson, I accompanied it with a stat that said, “Fuckin’ amazing article. A wake up call for me.” It was really exactly that. There were so many things that were awesome from that article, but the highlights for me were these: