Ever since I watched this video where Simon Sinek talked about Millenials and our relationship with social media, I realized that I’m addicted to Facebook and it’s bad. In the past, I really did not understand the criticisms against social media. I even eagerly professed my love for Facebook. When I watched this video though, I was convinced that excessive use of Facebook can be detrimental. Aside from the obvious reason that it’s a time-waster, it also makes people addicted and dependent on social praise. In the long run, this can degrade one’s resilience against failure. Before I discuss those points, you can watch the video here:
I love books, but I think I buy too many. Right now I have 52 unread books on my bookshelf. I actually have more than that, but the ones that have been unread for a year or more, I’ve already placed in my pile of books to sell. I did this because Marie Kondo’s The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up said: if you haven’t read that book in a year, you never will. When I read that, I was shocked, but at the same time, I realized, she was right. So I cleaned out my books.
Though I am pleased with my progress, I want to hit a better target. Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project said that she aims for five unread books at a time. Five? That sounds impossible! I’m trying though. I already banned myself from entering bookstores, but sometimes I just can’t resist. Sometimes I also worry that what if I can’t find a copy of that book anymore, so I have to buy it now, now, now! Ok, this is unhealthy.
I watched a Netflix documentary called Living on One Dollar. It’s about young American men who traveled to Guatemala so that they can understand what it’s like to live like the poorest of the poor. Since they were on a budget, they couldn’t eat that much, and they started to feel lethargic. Then I realized, the poor face this everyday. They lack nutrition, which affects their energy levels, and this also affects how they work.
When I wear sexy clothes, I wear them not because I want to get the attention of men. I just want to wear clothes that look good on me, and sometimes those clothes happen to be sexy, so fuck you. Sa mga lalake, kailan mo hindi sinoot ang favorite mong polo kasi natatakot ka na baka ma-rape ka? Never yun nangyayari sa iyo, pero sa mga babae, palaging kaming sinasabihan na ibahin ang damit namin.
So I watched Friends with Money on Netflix. It’s about three female friends who are rich and have husbands and another female friend who is single and works as a maid. The fourth friend’s name is Olivia, and at the end of the movie she dates Marty. She used to clean his house and thought he was an unemployed loser. When she calls to tell her she’s quitting, he asks her out. She says yes and brings him to a fancy fundraising dinner that she attends with her friends. Before the dinner, they talk in his apartment, and they hit it off. At the end of the date, he reveals to her that he is rich, so rich that he doesn’t have to work. She is delighted. She finally hit the jackpot. She has sex with him, but the morning after, something else hits her.
How can we have the courage to do the right thing? Sometimes it’s not as easy as it seems. Sometimes doing the right thing can affect us negatively. Activists who speak up for just causes but end up being jailed by oppressive regimes would know this to be true. We really don’t know what will happen though until we make that decision. Maybe the activists won’t get jailed and instead triggers a revolution and is deemed a hero.
However, the threat of negative consequences, no matter how unsure they are, is enough to make us cower and decide to do the wrong thing. There is an advice though that can help us during these trying times, and that is: “Don’t be married to a certain outcome.” I read this in the book, Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward by Henry Cloud.
The movie Nise: The Heart of Madness is based on the real story of Brazilian Psychiatrist Dr. Nise da Silveira. In the movie, she was the only female doctor in a mental hospital in Rio de Janeiro. Unlike her colleagues, she was opposed to electroshock therapy and lobotomy, and instead she introduced art therapy. This led to the patients creating incredible works of art which earned the respect of art critics. Her colleagues though were not as enthralled, and they did something incredibly heartless.